Kisah Nyata: Hikmah Menutup Aurat di Depan Non-Muslim

Berikut ini adalah kisah nyata yang saya alami sendiri.

Jadi ceritanya, saya rutin senam aerobik di sebuah sanggar yang saya ga perlu menyebutkan namanya. Peserta senam aerobik di sana memang perempuan semua, dan tempatnya pun tertutup, sehingga kebanyakan peserta memilih memakai pakaian senam yang pendek-pendek dan tanpa jilbab, mungkin lebih nyaman memang untuk bergerak, walaupun aslinya kalau "di luar ruangan" mereka mengenakan full jilbab.

Pagi ini saya senam seperti biasa. Beberapa hari ini memang saya lihat ada seorang ibu separuh baya yang sedikit "nyentrik" dari pakaian dan tingkahnya. Beliau berpakaian bak anak muda, "gahoel" gitu. Nah yang mengejutkan adalah setelah senam berakhir tiba-tiba beliau mengeluarkan HP dan berfoto-foto narsis (nggak sekali doang!) di mana backgroundnya adalah peserta senam yang masih mengenakan "kostum senam"nya.

Saya merinding. Saya yakin di antara teman-teman yang hadir ada beberapa yang berjilbab. Bagaimana kalau nggak sengaja tanpa sepengetahuan mereka, mereka terfoto? X( Bagaimana kalau ibu gahoel ini meng-upload fotonya ke dunia maya? X(

Saya diajarkan kalau dalam Surat An-Nur 30-31 yang artinya

“Katakanlah kepada wanita yang beriman: “Hendaklah mereka menahan pandangannya, dan kemaluannya, dan janganlah mereka menampakkan perhiasannya, kecuali yang (biasa) nampak dari padanya. Dan hendaklah mereka menutupkan kain kudung kedadanya, dan janganlah menampakkan perhiasannya kecuali kepada suami mereka, atau ayah mereka, atau ayah suami mereka, atau putera-putera mereka, atau putera-putera suami mereka, atau saudara-saudara laki-laki mereka, atau putera-putera saudara lelaki mereka, atau putera-putera saudara perempuan mereka, atau wanita-wanita islam, atau budak-budak yang mereka miliki, atau pelayan-pelayan laki-laki yang tidak mempunyai keinginan (terhadap wanita) atau anak-anak yang belum mengerti tentang aurat wanita…” (An-Nur:31).

kalau diteliti lagi ternyata "wanita-wanita" yang boleh melihat aurat seorang muslimah itu adalah hanya muslimah lain.

Dengan kisah yang saya alami hari ini, saya bisa sedikit menyimpulkan, kalau menjaga aurat di depan wanita non-muslim itu bukan karena kita membeda-bedakan atau apa, tetapi ternyata karena non-muslim masih ada yang kurang mengerti bagaimana seorang muslimah menjaga aurat.

Wallahu a'lam. Semoga jadi renungan kita semua.

Cultural Invasion

I have just been watching TV again now (yes, I don't watch TV most of the time, and if I do, mostly I watch Disney Channel or Nick #seriously) and just realized there are more variant of cooking reality show: Top Chef, Masterchef, Hell's Kitchen, etc. They introduce us to the concept of fine dining, three courses meal, or just eating with damn many set of forks, knives and spoons. Meanwhile in Islam our Prophet Muhammad teaches us to eat using our three fingers. However we can't deny that our eating customs today is not like what our Prophet taught us. Sometimes it is not because we don't want to follow the teaching, just because the type of food we eat requires us to use the custom of where that food comes from.

And this brought me to the thought of a religious talk a long time ago (probably during high school), that "the west" is invading us using 3F "Food, Fashion, Film". Looking at the reality today, I think this is true. These 3Fs are the most powerful aspects to insert a foreign culture values. I want to take Korean pop culture as an example. (Dear Korean pop lovers, I don't hate Kpop culture, I just find it is interesting that it is very viral! More than Japanese). It got my attention through its entertainment world, starting from their unique music stream, their fresh style of reality show, their interesting drama series. Slowly this is bringing us to move to the other Fs, like Fashion (example: Ayu Ting Ting, a dangdut singer who likes to adapt Korean style) then to Food (yess more Korean restaurants gets popular as the entertainment world rises).

Cursing the darkness, are we? Hating those culture who successfully infect our children and bringing them far from the culture they should be following? Thinking that the solution to this is to raise our voice and tell them to stop?

I'd like to see a different approach to this matter. If 3Fs are the key of which they successfully used to give that cultural invasion to us, why don't we now focus on improving our 3Fs? Take Dian Pelangi as an example. She is a fashion expert who introduces hijab (head coverings used by muslim woman) in her fashion line. I like her in the way she tries to bring Islamic air to the fashion world. Yes, fashion world is overly glamorous, which is not in line with the modesty teaching of Islam. But fashion is art! Just like those paintings exhibition but shown in fabrics and worn by models. But I am sad that some people still criticize her of being unIslamic :(

Ok I've been moving around too much with this discussion, from food, to Kpop, to Dian Pelangi :P The point is I wanna show that don't leave the 3Fs world and say that they have nothing to benefit our religion's spread. I hope in the future there are more Muslims who are experts in these fields and are competitive with other culture :) Lets light more candle, not curse the darkness.

Pintu Masuk Syaitan dan Penyebab Matinya Hati

Syaitan tau titik-titik kelemahan manusia

1. Marah dan syahwat: jangan marah, maka bagimu syurga
2. Dengki (sampai seneng liat susah, berasa pengen nikmat dia pindah ke aku)
3. Suka berhias dengan perabotan dan pakaian 
4. Kenyang (menghilangkan Allah dari hatinya, menghilangkan orang lain dari hatinya, menghambat ketaatan, tidak tanggap mendengarkan nasihat, menyampaikan hikmah tidak didengar dari orang, meningkatkan syahwat)
5. Tamak kepada manusia (sampai membuat kita buta dan tuli), meminta pengakuan sama manusia, semua amalan karena pamrih
6. Terburu-buru dan tidak mengkonfirmasi persoalan (Hadits Abu Ya'la, Baihaqi: Sifat perlahan-lahan (Sabar) dari Allah, dan sifat tergesa-gesa itu berasal dari syaitan)
7. Dirham, bunga, dan segala macam harta kekayaan (segala macam yang berlebihan dari takaran pokok itu g baik, yang sesuai dengan pokok aja bisa bikin hati kosong je)
8. Bakhil dan takut miskin (menghindari hartanya untuk disadaqahkan)
9. Fanatik pada mahzab (ga boleh sampai merendahkan mahzab lain)
10. Mengajak orang awam untuk berfikir tentang Dzat Allah
11. Buruk sangka terhadap kaum muslim lain

Terapi menolak syaiton: DZIKRULLAH! adalah menghadirkan Allah di setiap amalan.

Perumpamaan syaitan -> seekor anjing lapar. Jika kita punya sesuatu yang dia inginkan maka dia semakin ingin mendekat!

Jika sudah terjebak, syaitan akan mudah menarik kita dari satu pintu ke pintu lain.

Ibrahim bin Adham: "Mengapa doa kami tidak dikabulkan?" "Karena hati kalian telah mati. Ada 8 hal yang bikin hati mati:

1. mengetahui hak Allah tetapi tidak menegakkan (shalat, puasa, dll)
2. membaca Al Quran tapi tidak mengamalkan hukumnya
3. mengatakan cinta Rasulullah tetapi mengabaikan sunnahnya
4. mengatakan takut mati tetapi tidak mempersiapkan diri
5. tidak menjadikan syaitan musuh, malah mendukung maksiat
6. mengatakan takut api neraka tetapi memasukkan jasad ke dalamnya dengan maksiat
7. mengatakan cinta surga tapi tidak menunjukkan usaha
8. menutupi aib sendiri, tetapi menghamparkan aib orang lain"

Wallahu a'lam.

Trust

Saya: Mungkin ada baiknya kalau polisi memulai memberikan imej berbeda pada masyarakat, utamanya anak-anak. Imej yang bersahabat dan ada untuk melayani masyarakat, bukan untuk dijadikan obyek penakut-nakut yang dipakai saat membuat anak itu supaya tidak menangis lagi.
Polisi: Ya mungkin bisa kami berpakaian seperti badut dan bertingkah lucu agar anak-anak suka.. blabla yang intinya.. nanti kalau kami bersahabat masyarakat ngga akan merasa takut kalau melakukan kesalahan.

(Seminar lalu lintas di UGM, tahun 2010)

Ok so sebuah imej yang ditakuti, disegani adalah lebih penting ya daripada sebuah kepercayaan atas tugas seorang polisi?

Opini saya, dalam imej ditakuti dan disegani, jarak antara masyarakat dan polisi adalah

P----------------------------------------------------------M

Akibatnya, once something fails, youre gonna curse and hate them like they dont know what they are doing. Are people really then afraid to break the rules? No, they just find more ways to fool the police.

Namun jika lebih meningkatkan kepercayaan, tanpa harus imej yang keras dan menakut-nakuti

P-------M

When something fails, you will believe its not truly their fault, youre going to support them because you understand what they are doing. You will not attempt to fool them, you have this sort of responsible feelings not to betray this trust.

#justbabbling

Study at the Best University, Can We?

Imagine you are a student of Gadjah Mada University, Indonesia. The university which is considered one of the top three in the country. If your dream was to pursue a career in oil company, aiming for the best company in the world like, name it, Exxon, BP, Chevron, Schlumberger, Total, etc, its not impossible for you, and almost quite easy (and common :P). They have their business branch here in the country. Now if your dream is to continue studying, have you ever thought of going to the best university in the world? Harvard, MIT, Cambridge, whoa! Now you are called a dreamer just because you dare to mention these universities. Oh, come on, studying abroad is already good enough. I was thinking hard wondering why is this not possible common.

I traced back to my experience studying in an Australian high school back on my high school days. I went to one of the top three high school in the city (what's with all 'top three'?). I have to say I feel that I am quite smart and I have quite good grades back then. I enjoy school very much. I could excel the tests and I was in the high-grade competition students. Really. So I feel that I am good enough to this "world class competition". And this is not just me. Back in Yogyakarta I feel like I am just an average student, to be honest. So its all of us!

Just tonight I found a website offering a scholarship to University of Cambridge, called the Gates Cambridge Scholarship at University of Cambridge and I found their yearbook. When I see their pics, they remind me of my friends back in that Australian high school (but of course, none of them are my old high school friends :P). I was all, hey! How come they are more successful than I am? How come they go to better school than I do? Was I not in the same level like they were in high school? They are just human too, aren't they? They can be in the world class university. Top three! So why can't we? Are we afraid to dream that high? Then again, if you can dream working in top three oil company in the world, why can't we dream of going to top three university in the world?

Then I found this post on a website http://agusrendiwijaya.wordpress.com/2008/03/20/sekolah-di-mit-atau-harvard-university-kita-pasti-bisa/. It said the person who got accepted had an average GPA back in his bachelor degree (I wonder how he defines average? Maybe his average is the high average, because its ITB, you know). Now again, I have thought that one of the reason it has not been very common for us is that we never thought of it in our life! Those people from Europe, Australia, USA, they are familiar with the university. So lets familiarize ourself! We are the one to open the path of our future, no one else would do that for us.

Dream big, high, from this right moment.
We live only once so live like you are going to live forever.
meanwhile don't forget to pray like we are going to die tomorrow :)